10 Questions To Consider (And Ask!) When Selecting Your Wedding Venue

There are so many wonderful venues out there, and all dolled up in their marketing photos, these venues sure do look dreamy. But most Couples get so caught up on the aesthetics that they neglect some of the important factors when choosing a wedding venue, so here are the Top 10 Questions you should consider (and even ask!) when selecting your Wedding Venue. Already booked it?! It’s not too late to be informed and make the necessary accommodations to suit your needs.

Where does the caterer set up, or where is the kitchen? (Inside or outside?) If you need to bring in your own caterer, find out where their station is. For most museums or historical homes, they usually do not allow the catering company inside the premises, and the caterers are forced to work outdoors. This is fine as long as you don’t mind paying a bit more for stressors like this—vendors will often consider little nightmares like this when quoting you on a price—and insects all over your food. 🙂

What’s the bathroom situation like? Is it handicap accessible? How’s the lighting? Do porta-potties have to be rented? Are they nice and clean? Maybe you don’t care now, but imagine everyone all dressed up. Think of your elderly guests or those needing assistance. Many rustic venues do not have bathrooms, so know what you are getting yourself into before you book.

What’s the parking like for guests? Is there a Valet? Meters? This could be a nuisance for your guests. For most beach weddings, for example, parking is metered, limited, and really far away from the location of the ceremony. Perhaps hiring a valet parking company could alleviate some of the stress here, but if not, and you have older folks in attendance, you may need to find an alternative. Already comes with Valet service? Great! Is it complimentary for your guests or vendors?! It really better be for your guests! If it isn’t for your vendors, they could put those fees on you and charge you more for this inconvenience because most venues do not comp a vendor’s valet ticket. In addition, many vendors need easy access to their cars, so this could prove to be a major issue.

Is there an air-conditioned Bridal Suite? (If you are not doing a First Look: Do you have 2 rooms for us?) Is there a space just for you and your Bridal Party? You will want to freshen up away from the crowd. You’ll need somewhere to leave some of your things. You may need a breather for a minute, too. A Bridal Suite is a luxury that you will appreciate that day; trust me! See if there is a room that can be dedicated to you for your day.

Do you provide food in the Bridal Suite pre-ceremony? This is HUGE. You and your Entourage will be starving and thirsty that day, so having some refreshments and snacks is ideal. Most do not provide this without an extra fee, but it is totally worth the expense. If they do not provide food and drinks in the Bridal Suite, then have someone bring some for you: a fruit and cheese platter, mini sandwiches, or vegetable crudités, etc. Get some protein in there, and be sure to have lots of cold water handy for yourselves and your Entourage! Your wedding day is a very long day, and these little sips and bites will go a long way 🙂

Do you provide a personal attendant the day of? Most do not, but it sure is nice if they do. This person is literally assigned to you, and they will do, get, and help, anyway they can! They are your voice for the entire day. They get you what you need when you need it. You are never looking for anyone because you have this person with you, doing your bidding, as you need it!

From where do we walk into the Ceremony location (the Processional) and the Reception? If you want to be hidden from guests before the Processional, this is an important question to ask. One of my Couples didn’t want to be seen, so their only alternative was to walk through a kitchen to get to the ceremony location; I kid you not! Gross. And kind of dangerous…and against some sort of health code, I am sure. Another Couple had to wait outside doors on a public street. Awkward. They could barely hear their music cues to walk down the aisle because the noise from a bustling city drowned it out! Typically, most Couples have to stand in a fully exposed spot as they wait their turn to walk down the aisle, OR they have to walk through some long, far away, perilous terrain—not an easy thing to do in uncomfortable shoes!

Is there electricity provided at the Ceremony location? If not, make sure the vendors that need power have a generator. Your DJ cannot play your music selection, and no one will hear the officiant or you during the ceremony. Nature absorbs all sound, and having a sound system (which requires power) helps counteract this issue.

What time can we arrive that day? Did you intend on getting ready at the venue? Taking pictures there? Then definitely ask this question. Some venues will not allow on the premises until an hour before the ceremony’s commencement, so be sure that accommodates your plans.

What time can our vendors arrive? Couples are not the only ones forbidden to arrive too early the day of their ceremonies. Sometimes, vendors are not allowed on site until an hour prior to the ceremony’s commencement too, and for some vendors, that’s insane! It is not easy for a florist to build and assemble your archway or chuppah let alone do it in under 60 minutes! It takes time for the rental folks and party planners to set up your ceremony décor, and if they have to be in a mad dash against the clock, they could put that stress on you by making you pay extra fees.

Can we have a Formal Rehearsal in the exact same spot as the ceremony? Rehearsals, including your choice of music and its timing for the Processional and Recessional, are the ideal way to lower your anxiety and stress for your big day. It is a dry run of the major actions with all the major players in your wedding ceremony. If you cannot have a rehearsal in the exact location of the ceremony, then you may not want to bother having one at all. The whole purpose of a rehearsal is to practice the motions of the day as close to the actual set up as possible, or what’s the point?! For example, if you are getting married on a golf course, chances are the answer to this question is NO. Golf club members pay a lot of money to use those greens, and they are not happy to share it with you and your Entourage for a Formal Rehearsal. In fact, in most cases, no one is allowed in your ceremony location until about an hour before it is set to begin, so definitely not for a rehearsal!

When you scope out the handful of venues your heart is set on, make sure you you know exactly what you are getting, or you could end up with very unpleasant surprises.

Have fun exploring your desires and creativity, and Happy Planning!!

Beach Weddings: Unveiling The Hard Truth

Beach weddings sound so romantic, but most Couples learn the hard way that it isn’t always as fabulous as it sounds. Here are a few things to consider if your vision is to have your wedding ceremony on the sand:

Fees. If you want to have a private event on public space, you must first get a permit. All along the coasts of Florida, this rule is in effect. How strictly the local law enforcement adheres to it, however, is another story. Fees range anywhere from $55 to $135, a small price to pay for feeling safe and in accordance with local laws. Having a completely blank slate means that you may have to rent chairs and other decorations or structures to stage the ceremony the way you want it, which could end up costing you a lot more than what you had originally planned.

Parking. Parking for public beaches is typically a nightmare. Feeding a meter can be a nuisance when you are trying to have a good time. The trek from the lot to the beach is usually a bit long especially for women in heels and those with disabilities. Both of these ingredients equal a serious discomfort for your guests.

No Plan B. Outdoor ceremonies MUST have a Plan B in case of inclement weather, but if you have it on a public beach, you are out of luck! Hiring classical musicians? They will run for the hills if even one drop begins to fall because their instruments are very expensive and do not fare well in the rain. Consider ordering a tent—if that particular beach even allows for such things—or find a beach setting which has a large covered area…just in case.

No Power. Public beaches offer no electrical outlets, so unless you hire a fantastic vendor who happens to have a handy little generator on her at all times—ahem, 🙂 —there will be no power for your DJ or your Videographer, etc. No power means it will be really hard to hear anything especially with the wind and sound of the waves drowning it all out.

Windy Conditions. Hair, sand, and other debris, are all easily tossed around on the windy shores. Add a veil to that, and you’re asking for another annoying treat! Your ceremony should be as soothing, beautiful and memorable as possible, but the wind will make it a stressful 30 minutes that you can never get back.

Melting Guests. The sun can be brutal in Florida in general, let alone on its shores. Depending upon the time of day you choose, and which side you’re on (East or West), the sun and its relentless heat can be unforgiving. If you have lots of kids or elderly folks coming to the wedding, and the sun will be in full-force at the time of your ceremony, take this into consideration. It may affect your attire, that of your guests, and other potential accommodations—such as cold, bottled water; umbrellas; fans; renting a tent, etc.

Sand in All the Wrong Places. Are you intending to wear formal attire? Fancy dresses and suits…heels and shoes? You would be amazed how sand can and will get everywhere, which could make it a very uncomfortable rest of the evening for you. Think easy, light and carefree attire. Ditch the heels and closed toe shoes. Go barefoot or wear next to nothing sandals. But check out the sand’s condition first: the sand may have a lot of debris, and you could injure yourself if you decide to forgo the shoe altogether.

Naked Voyeurs. It cannot be avoided: there will be scantily dressed on-lookers at your ceremony if you choose to have it on a public beach. No matter how many times photographers and I have shooed away these curious onlookers, everyone loves weddings, and these half-naked folks will be in your photos; mark my words! And it usually isn’t the folks who you’d want to see close-to-naked, either. 🙂

Dangerous Runners. Typical runners are not very sturdy to begin with, and on the sand (or even grass) they can prove to be a hazard. Unless you use a carpet runner with a sturdy thick padding beneath it, everyone walking down the aisle is potentially at risk of tripping or snagging themselves on the flimsy material of your runner. Save yourself money and nix the idea all together. If you already bought it, use it in the reception hall to pave the way for your fun entrance into the party!

A ceremony on the beach can be as beautiful as you imagined. Just consider all factors before making your final decision, and do what you can to avoid some of the unpleasant issues.

Happy Planning!

10 Questions To Consider (And Ask!) When Selecting Your Wedding Venue

There are so many wonderful venues out there, and all dolled up in their marketing photos, these venues sure do look dreamy. But most Couples get so caught up on the aesthetics that they neglect some of the important factors when choosing a wedding venue, so here are the Top 10 Questions you should consider (and even ask!) when selecting your Wedding Venue. Already booked it?! It’s not too late to be informed and make the necessary accommodations to suit your needs.

Where does the caterer set up, or where is the kitchen? (Inside or outside?) If you need to bring in your own caterer, find out where their station is. For most museums or historical homes, they usually do not allow the catering company inside the premises, and the caterers are forced to work outdoors. This is fine as long as you don’t mind paying a bit more for stressors like this—vendors will often consider little nightmares like this when quoting you on a price—and insects all over your food. 🙂

What’s the bathroom situation like? Is it handicap accessible? How’s the lighting? Do porta-potties have to be rented? Are they nice and clean? Maybe you don’t care now, but imagine everyone all dressed up. Think of your elderly guests or those needing assistance. Many rustic venues do not have bathrooms, so know what you are getting yourself into before you book.

What’s the parking like for guests? Is there a Valet? Meters? This could be a nuisance for your guests. For most beach weddings, for example, parking is metered, limited, and really far away from the location of the ceremony. Perhaps hiring a valet parking company could alleviate some of the stress here, but if not, and you have older folks in attendance, you may need to find an alternative. Already comes with Valet service? Great! Is it complimentary for your guests or vendors?! It really better be for your guests! If it isn’t for your vendors, they could put those fees on you and charge you more for this inconvenience because most venues do not comp a vendor’s valet ticket. In addition, many vendors need easy access to their cars, so this could prove to be a major issue.

Is there an air-conditioned Bridal Suite? (If you are not doing a First Look: Do you have 2 rooms for us?) Is there a space just for you and your Bridal Party? You will want to freshen up away from the crowd. You’ll need somewhere to leave some of your things. You may need a breather for a minute, too. A Bridal Suite is a luxury that you will appreciate that day; trust me! See if there is a room that can be dedicated to you for your day.

Do you provide food in the Bridal Suite pre-ceremony? This is HUGE. You and your Entourage will be starving and thirsty that day, so having some refreshments and snacks is ideal. Most do not provide this without an extra fee, but it is totally worth the expense. If they do not provide food and drinks in the Bridal Suite, then have someone bring some for you: a fruit and cheese platter, mini sandwiches, or vegetable crudités, etc. Get some protein in there, and be sure to have lots of cold water handy for yourselves and your Entourage! Your wedding day is a very long day, and these little sips and bites will go a long way 🙂

Do you provide a personal attendant the day of? Most do not, but it sure is nice if they do. This person is literally assigned to you, and they will do, get, and help, anyway they can! They are your voice for the entire day. They get you what you need when you need it. You are never looking for anyone because you have this person with you, doing your bidding, as you need it!

From where do we walk into the Ceremony location (the Processional) and the Reception? If you want to be hidden from guests before the Processional, this is an important question to ask. One of my Couples didn’t want to be seen, so their only alternative was to walk through a kitchen to get to the ceremony location; I kid you not! Gross. And kind of dangerous…and against some sort of health code, I am sure. Another Couple had to wait outside doors on a public street. Awkward. They could barely hear their music cues to walk down the aisle because the noise from a bustling city drowned it out! Typically, most Couples have to stand in a fully exposed spot as they wait their turn to walk down the aisle, OR they have to walk through some long, far away, perilous terrain—not an easy thing to do in uncomfortable shoes!

Is there electricity provided at the Ceremony location? If not, make sure the vendors that need power have a generator. Your DJ cannot play your music selection, and no one will hear the officiant or you during the ceremony. Nature absorbs all sound, and having a sound system (which requires power) helps counteract this issue.

What time can we arrive that day? Did you intend on getting ready at the venue? Taking pictures there? Then definitely ask this question. Some venues will not allow on the premises until an hour before the ceremony’s commencement, so be sure that accommodates your plans.

What time can our vendors arrive? Couples are not the only ones forbidden to arrive too early the day of their ceremonies. Sometimes, vendors are not allowed on site until an hour prior to the ceremony’s commencement too, and for some vendors, that’s insane! It is not easy for a florist to build and assemble your archway or chuppah let alone do it in under 60 minutes! It takes time for the rental folks and party planners to set up your ceremony décor, and if they have to be in a mad dash against the clock, they could put that stress on you by making you pay extra fees.

Can we have a Formal Rehearsal in the exact same spot as the ceremony? Rehearsals, including your choice of music and its timing for the Processional and Recessional, are the ideal way to lower your anxiety and stress for your big day. It is a dry run of the major actions with all the major players in your wedding ceremony. If you cannot have a rehearsal in the exact location of the ceremony, then you may not want to bother having one at all. The whole purpose of a rehearsal is to practice the motions of the day as close to the actual set up as possible, or what’s the point?! For example, if you are getting married on a golf course, chances are the answer to this question is NO. Golf club members pay a lot of money to use those greens, and they are not happy to share it with you and your Entourage for a Formal Rehearsal. In fact, in most cases, no one is allowed in your ceremony location until about an hour before it is set to begin, so definitely not for a rehearsal!

When you scope out the handful of venues your heart is set on, make sure you you know exactly what you are getting, or you could end up with very unpleasant surprises.

Have fun exploring your desires and creativity, and Happy Planning!!

Tips On Shopping For Your Wedding Day Attire

You are planning a day out with friends to shop for your wedding attire! How exciting?! Here are some things to consider before you go shopping so that you are prepared for the best experience and the best, most comfortable wedding day!

First of all, remember to have FUN! The wedding planning process should be fun! You may have begun this thought process in childhood, and now it is finally your turn to do it for real. Let your creativity move you. Get inspired! But get the idea out of your head that you will accomplish 100 things in a few hours. Go in with an attitude of “this is a day I get to spend with the people I love!” Do it early on in the engagement, after you book a venue because your venue could affect your attire, and you certainly do not want to be stuck with something that won’t work. Give yourself plenty of time to shop around for what feels right. Think of these excursions as more time with loved ones.

When you try on dresses, try on a bunch! Even the ones you swore you wouldn’t like…no, wait…ESPECIALLY the ones you never thought you would like because you will be surprised! So many of my couples have worn things they never thought they would because it looked perfect on them. There are so many options for all different body types and tastes, so have fun and give more than you expected a try. When else are you going to have this opportunity?! Tap into your inner-child, and have a blast!

When you find the right one, you will simply KNOW!!! Just like you knew your mate was the one, you will just know that you are wearing the perfect outfit for your special day. Just be aware that most Shops make their money in alterations, so when choosing a size to order, use your discretion. If you are normally a 4, but they are trying to sell you a 10 according to your “measurements,” your dress will more often than not be swimming on you. Do not be afraid to speak up and ask questions. See if there’s another dress from the same designer in the size they think you are, so you can see for yourself because you do not want to be uncomfortable on your wedding day. In the same token, if there are many more “fixes” before you pick up your wedding day attire, you may want to insist that you try it on to make sure those final alterations were made. I cannot tell you how often my Brides will complain that the last bit of alterations were never done! And then they are stuck with a dress that does not fit right. Your main goal should be to FEEL and look your best!

Which brings me to my last bit of advice: If your dress is even slightly uncomfortable—it has boning, itchy beading, sweetheart neckline that you have to keep pulling up—you may want to consider buying a second dress to change into that is COMFY. Your wedding day is crazy long! You will be walking a lot. You will be sitting a lot. You will be standing a lot. You will be exhausted after this whirlwind of an amazing day, and if you are uncomfortable in your attire, your misery will be tenfold. I always advise that my couples bring a change of comfortable shoes AND clothes because feeling comfortable will positively affect your mood, so you can make the most out of your wedding day.

I share this insight with the sole intention of helping you make your wedding day experience as enjoyable and pleasant as possible.

Enjoy the process, and Happy Planning!

Posted in Uncategorized